Have you ever seen a 3-year old “cry”? No not cry… but “cry”.

It look’s something like this:

WHAT?!

Yep. That babe knows what’s up. He wants something and he knows exactly how to get it. _{BUT HOW?!}

Well, he’s an observant little guy. We all once were. And we learned pretty quickly how this world works.

Evidently, we also seem to remember these things as we get older…

AND older…

Oh boy.

We remember these things so well that research shows the way parents or caregivers respond to children in infancy has such a significant effect, that it can actually determine how a child will grow up to form romantic attachments, as an adult. According to psychologists, this can make the difference in how open, trusting, and understanding (versus jealous, dependent, or distant) a person may be with their partner. _Woah.

So if we are capable of carrying habits, beliefs, and perspectives, with us that we learn as infants, into adulthood, what about all the other things we learn in the most developmental times in our lives? What we observed or were even taught directly as children or teenagers?

As children, we may not know any better. We may not even have much of a choice – or know that a choice is possible. But as we get older, more aware, and more experienced, we can challenge those beliefs. We grow out of them, as we get older, just like we grow out of our old clothes as kiddos.

This takes some honesty, but what perspectives or ways of doing things are you attached to? Do they bring you positive results? Do they fit your life and what you want?

Challenge the beliefs that don’t work for you, don’t fit anymore, and see what happens…

Time to take some old clothes to the thrift store… See you there!

Hugs,

Abella

Assignment for fun-having: There are a ton of phenomenal, life-changing teachers out there, I am thankful for them, but just to illustrate my point of the sometimes invalid things we’re taught as younglings: Next time you get a chance, drop the following into your Google search bar: “dumb things said by teachers”, and enjoy!