WHAT HE'S REALLY SAYING: "You're super hot, therefore I'm in love with you. Let's get married! Even though I've known you for a total of 3 days... and know nothing about you - as you aren't physically capable of communicating with me for some mysterious reason. Weird... whatever!"

 

I am subscribed to this obnoxiously AWESOME, young comedienne on YouTube, and just a few weeks ago, she brought up a really good point in her video, “What Disney Movies Taught Me“.

About 5 minutes in, after her initial silly commentary, she starts talking about something she clearly feels strongly about – the unrealistic plot repeatedly recycled in classic Disney films (1989 – 1999). It goes a little something like this:

  1. Girl (age 15-17) has problem.
  2. Girl meets boy.
  3. Boy solves problem.
  4. Boy and girl get married and live happily ever after. The end.

First of all … what good decisions are made between the ages of 15 and 17?

And marriage is the goal/answer/ending-prize? Well that sounds like a great message for developing minds. Young ladies of the early 9o’s and beyond: Take the shoulder pads out of those blouses and put them back in your bra where they belong! Clearly, you must wait for (or coerce) a man to marry you in order to finally live happily ever after. If you don’t, well, you might end up single, old, ugly, and evil… like Ursula.

Nonetheless, the now, twenty-something women, grew up on that business. Have you noticed the effect? We’ve all seen it – relationships used as the fix for sadness, validation, fear, money woes, boredom, etc. What’s to be done? Surely banning Disney movies isn’t the answer. Nor can 80′s/90′s Disney writers be blamed for it all.

The moral of the story is this: The world is full of so many thoughts/ideas/beliefs, it’s your job to challenge what doesn’t work for you. What happens in life to make us believe or think a certain way, at some point, stops mattering. What matters is what we do now – what we choose for ourselves.  Sometimes we forget, I can admit that there have been many times that I have, but our experience here, our life, is our choice… and no one else’s.

XX♥

Abella